Shout out to aros who love strongly, who love using the term love, and those who want to define their relationships around love. Shout out to aros with complicated relationships to love, aros who like the concept of love but not the way it's used in society, aros who have reclaimed love for themselves. Shout out to aros who don't love, aros who have rejected love all together and aros who define their experiences outside of love.

All of these experiences have their place in the arospec communities and all of these experiences bring value to the arospec communities.

Hi I'm one of those romance-favorable aros that people keep bringing up and I'd just like to say:

Stop using my identity to invalidate my aro siblings

And if you're truly set on making aro characters romance-favorable, then do that!

My experiences are not the same as someone who is alloromantic just because I'm romance-favorable. You can't just slap 'romance-favorable' on an aro character to write them how you would an allo.

Have them grapple with being in a relationship and feeling guilty that they don't feel what their partner feels. Have them have tough conversations with their partner over how they feel and their specific limits. Have them fight the internalized arophobia they feel that tells them they can't really be aro if they're in a romantic relationship.

But for the love of God, stop just slapping 'romance-favorable' on aro characters to ignore the fact that they are aro.

I got around to making this post sooner thanks to the interest!

Would you like to take part in a small aromantic community zine?

I am officially opening for people to sign up to be a part of this project! :> It will mainly consist of written works, but I'm open for illustrative pieces as well. You can participate with either or both.

You can fill out this form to become part of this project! (16+)

https://forms.gle/L2wQ6ymZH7FNJcQx9

In the experience of someone who has been using the label for a long time, there truly is no representation for us out there. The assumption that aromantic people are simply asexual is still haunting us everywhere. What better way to get representation and a way to express yourself, than by having it done by the community itself!

I myself have a lot of complex feelings and experiences I wish I had an outlet for, and this is what I want it to be! Not to mention, having other people take part is only going to make this more meaningful and fulfilling!

The goal is to find all participants by end of January, or sometime February. If things go to plan, I wish to have this finished sometime during spring. It will be printed into physical zines once it's done.

Also please be patient with me, I have never made a zine with multiple people!

Introducing "No Romo" Fest: a creative celebration of aromanticism 💚

Let's celebrate Valentine's Day with our own definition of love (or a lack thereof)! No Romo Fest is a creative event taking place from February 8th to 14th, open to anyone and everyone who would like to center aromanticism in their work.

Works can be posted under the #no romo fest tag and/or in the AO3 collection throughout the week.

Guidelines & (optional) prompts below the cut:

do u see the vision

the aromantic community needs to know about perfect days (2023). it is a beautiful slice of life film about hirayama, a ~60 year old japanese toilet cleaner who has a small apartment suited just for himself. he makes meaning connections with his coworkers, shop workers, and his niece. he also spends a lot of time with his hobbies of photography, collecting cassettes, and reading. he is content and satisfied with his life and at no point in the film does he ever express a desire for a romantic relationship. the life he has has no room for a partner, and he likes it that way

its so weird being aromantic. like.. people talk about datign and their desire for romantic connection and i don’t relate in the slightest and like to me not caring about having a romantic partner is normal ,??? but people actually desire romantic relationships?????? like idk.. its so weird to me. like what do you mean i’m in the minority on this

Speaking as an arospec person with three partners, I have long suspected that the venn diagram off aromantics and polyamorous people has a significant overlap. When you start looking at relationships without the guise of amatonormativity, you can get all kinds of creative with it.

What is "romantic attraction"? Fucked if I know, but I like having multiple partners. I like having my small army of best friends who I get to kiss if I'm in the mood.

Poll because I'm curious:

🎶You should take a quick poll! Sample sizer!🎵

I think there's some medias that you just cannot meaningfully engage with if your main priority is shipping

(Tired aroace voice, metaphorical cigarette in hand) You don't have to make them kiss... they don't always have to kiss...

official aromantic post

“there is no straight explanation for this” neither is there a gay one. there is however an aromantic one

I dropped all my other projects to finish this in time for pride and it's finally done!! I wanted some cool aro merch (since I have absolutely nothing so far), and what's cooler than dragons?

The heart shaped flag was embroidered on afterward, and if you look closely, there are a bunch of tiny flags woven into the border.

My original intention was to use this as a long patch for the back of my denim jacket. But it makes a pretty cool necklace?? If only I didn't have to chop off half the design to realize my vision... (I have yet to commit, this is just tied on with a big ol bulky knot in the back)

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

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